When the Man in Your Life Can't Commit: Recognizing the Signs of a Commitment--Phobe and What You Can Do About it
by Dr. David Hawkins
Published by Harvest House Publishers
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Reviewed by Andrea Sisco
If you're ready for a committed relationship but it isn't happening, read Dr. David Hawkins' When the Man in Your Life Can't Commit. It might save you time, energy and emotional turmoil. Hawkins explores the dilemmas of why a man won't commit, the stages of commitment and how women's commitment issues impact a relationship.
Relationships are fraught with choices, some easy and others difficult, painful and frightening. But without commitment, relationships are empty shells. Hawkins takes the reader on a journey of understanding that will help bring about a positive relationship change.
Hawkins suggests that fear limits our world by keeping it small, thus reducing the ability to commit. Fear makes a man want to run and feeling safe will open his heart to embrace love. To feel safe a man must be recognized as special, be able to "travel light" (be free within reason), be the recipient of loyalty and to be emotionally close even though he feels conflicted about closeness. A woman can help her commitment phobic man by giving these things but still maintaining her expectations and boundaries.
Hawkins also looks at women who continually choose the wrong man because of low self-esteem, fear of being alone, fear of change, fear of closeness and their own fear of commitment. If we are familiar with our own self-sabotaging behavior, we are ready to make better choices.
Through case histories and biblical references, Hawkins helps the reader view a fully committed relationship, determine where you and your man are on that journey and helps direct you to greater emotional intimacy.
Armchair Interviews says: Hawkins puts into words what many women know but either fail to recognize or just haven't considered when looking for Prince Charming.