The 21-Day Marriage Make Over
by Darren and Donna McNees
Published by Blue Sail Publishing, Inc. www.21DayMarriageMakeover.com
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Reviewed by Connie Anderson
This workbook (yes, a good marriage takes work) is subtitled: How to transform your marriage into one filled with more love, affection, fun and happiness.
"How you act will determine how your spouse reacts to you," the authors state, "because it is what you do to improve the quality of your marriage and life." Sounds like they are not going to give ME any slack and allow me to blame on HIM. Kind of a unique thought, isn't it.
I am writing this review on my 38th wedding anniversary--that's 38 years (take away a few teen-focused years) of putting my husband's needs first--or at least trying to. In today's "fix-it-now" life, too many people want instant fixing, without working for it.
Each of the 21-day sections contains some soul-searching questions as you work on your soul-mate relationship. Divided into seven sections, the content crosses all avenues from passion to money and the fun in between.
Much of the book is about YOU/ME--summed up by this quote from Big 10 football coach, Lou Holtz: "You can't change a flat tire by changing the driver," or in other words, you may be the problem.
Many times we want something in a relationship but expect our spouse to guess it. Isn't that coy (and ineffective)? In the section about desire, i.e., gifts, a woman expect her man to figure out her clues, and then gets upset when he guesses wrong.
In a line from an old movie: "If a woman is naked and smiling, the man is happy," women want affection--and men want physical intimacy. Achieving that balance is the marriage miracle.
The authors, Darren and Donna McNees, are relationship experts and motivational speakers. This 21-day program fully addresses and solves the seven leading causes of stress, conflict and unhappiness in a marriage.
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Armchair Interviews says this workbook is filled with things to make you think and ask yourself, "Am I doing that?" or, "Why am I NOT doing that?"