Lean on Me
by Lorraine Kember
Published by L.Kember Publications
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Reviewed by Radhika Gupte, Cancer Patients Aid Association: Cancer Patients Care India
A book, a piece of literature, a poem to be critically acclaimed or appreciated has to be first understood in its depth and entirety. Lean on Me is a superbly and beautifully written account of a cancer caregiver that transcends the harsh and hopeless realities of cancer and emerges like the smooth flow of a crystal clear rivulet which may appear insignificant and yet brings joy to every object it touches.
It is an extremely articulate account in the form of diary notes interspersed with simple yet beautiful poems. The book touches each and every human feeling--the finer ones as well as the darkest ones. The emotions described will touch any caregiver's heart and make them identify with the author.
All along the journey that Lorraine undertook as a caregiver for her husband afflicted with cancer, the power of positive thinking, which may seem to fail sometimes, is given primary importance. As is a very important factor--love for the patient which enhances human capacity. Equipped with these, the fight against the disease, the fight to help your loved one lead a quality life can become a unique experience. It is no exaggeration to say that the book can be a guide to caregivers who often become confused, desolate or depressed and unable to cope with the situation.
Equally amazing is the author's account of highly technical medical protocols. She studied this aspect in detail, discussed the anticipated side effects with the doctor and thus armed herself with a complete knowledge of the treatment. She stresses the importance of palliative care and shares the relief she felt when her husband was under the care of the Palliative Care Unit at the hospice. It is clear that the author left no stone unturned to make her beloved husband's life as comfortable, happy and meaningful as possible.
Coping with the realization that you are sharing the last days of someone dear to you requires immense grit and strength. While describing the total dedication she invested in the care of the patient, the author also emphasizes that the caregiver owes it to him/herself not to neglect their own health, feelings and well being.
The book, which set out to be a simple narration of day-to-day life of a cancer patient, ends up being a motivational force for all those faced with the unfortunate situation of witnessing a loved one suffer.
Armchair Interviews says: A must-read for caregivers. This author is in Western Australia and her book is available only through her website http://www.cancerthroughacarerseyes.jkwh.com