Drama Kings: The Men Who Drive Strong Women Crazy ...
by Dalma Heyn
Published by Rodale Press
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Reviewed by Connie Anderson
Ohmygosh, this book should be a class for high school girls, to save them tears and years of grief. Guys could learn from it as well, on what constitutes a "normal" relationship.
Who among us hasn't said, "She's so terrific--what what's she doing with HIM?"
Dalma Heyn has written a well-researched book about those men who come on like the "perfect man," but within months, the strong women that they have picked start to get it. These men always pick strong women because she is part of his self-fulfilling prophecy.
The book is divided into five Drama King types with stories from women the author has counseled or interviewed. The Kings are:
#1 The Visitor (comes but never really settles in--the guy who shows up for sex but never stays for intimacy,),
#2 The Proprietor (who takes over, becomes possessive, etc.,),
#3 The Easygoing Guy (EEG) who is fun to be with, to a point;
#4 The Hit-and-Run Lover (needs no explanation,),and
#5, the Feeling-Impaired Guy (FIG), who cannot express an emotion, even if his sex life depended on it.
The single women they pick are very smart and successful--many too busy to have a full-time relationship, so initially these guys are a perfect fit.
These men are smart, cunning and calculating--and at the same time out of control of their emotions. Each King kind leaves his strong woman--and always for a reason that "fits his type."
These men are wounded and damaged, and ladies remember, it's not your job to heal them. They lack the heartbreaking ability to be what the woman wants him to be--and that is usually someone else's fault.
Each chapter ends with Tell Tale Signs; Myths About...; Why You Were Taken in; and What You Learned from Him. Reading just these parts will give you a ton of clues.
If you are single or know a woman who is, this is a book for her. Now when a girlfriend calls me with some man-related rant, I will just open the book and tell her about him.
This book is chocked full of great lines, statements of scary, scary truth. My favorite is about the easy-going guy: "Like microwaved meat, a man who is warm on the outside can be icy, even frozen, on the inside." Not a very tasty thought.
Armchair Interview says: Warning: Not ALL men fit into these Drama King categories; many men know how to have normal relationships. But IF you get hooked with one of these guys, fasten your seatbelt, lock up your wallet and credit cards, and your hearts so can come out on the other wide wiser and mostly in tact. He might just not be that into you...or anybody.